A Gold Coast Funeral Director offers tips for funeral service preparation

The day of a funeral can feel overwhelming, with emotions running high and the weight of saying goodbye settling in. Whether you are organising a farewell for a loved one or attending to support family and friends, a little preparation can help you navigate the day with greater ease. At Solace Family Funerals, a trusted funeral home on the Gold Coast, we understand the importance of making this day as smooth and stress-free as possible.

Arriving early is one simple way to reduce stress on the day. Being on time shows respect and gives you a few moments to gather yourself before the service begins. Aim to arrive around 15 minutes early so you can find a seat and settle in without feeling rushed. If you are speaking or participating in the service, this extra time allows you to prepare and familiarise yourself with the surroundings. If the venue is unfamiliar, planning your route the night before can help avoid any last-minute confusion.

Socialising at a funeral isn’t always easy. Some people may find comfort in conversation, while others may prefer to grieve quietly. If you are feeling overwhelmed, don’t feel pressured to engage in small talk. Sit towards the back if you need some space, and let a close friend or family member know how you are feeling so they can offer support if needed.

A good night’s rest before the funeral can help, although grief often disrupts sleep. If you find yourself struggling to rest, avoid caffeine late in the day, try a calming tea before bed, or jot down any thoughts that may be racing through your mind. Even if you don’t get a full night’s sleep, resting your body can still help you manage the emotions of the day.

Eating something before the service is important, even if you don’t feel hungry. A small breakfast such as toast, fruit, or a smoothie can give you the energy you need to get through the day. Keeping a small snack, like a muesli bar, on hand can also be helpful if the ceremony runs long. Staying hydrated is equally important, especially if the service is outdoors.

If you are speaking at the funeral, having a printed copy of your tribute or reading can make a difference. Reading from a phone may seem convenient, but one accidental swipe could cause your notes to disappear. A printed version is easier to read and can even be kept as a memento after the service. Using a larger font and spacing out your text can also make it easier to read in an emotional moment.

Choosing what to wear to a funeral is about balancing respect with comfort. Traditional black attire is common, but in Australia, it’s not unusual to see lighter or more casual clothing, depending on the family's wishes. If the service is outdoors, consider practical elements such as sunglasses, a hat, or an umbrella for shade or rain. Wearing comfortable shoes is also a good idea in case you need to stand for long periods or walk on uneven ground.

Funerals are deeply emotional, and it’s natural to feel overwhelmed. Keeping tissues and a bottle of water nearby can help, and if you are supporting someone who may struggle, sitting close to them offers quiet reassurance. If you are involved in organising any part of the funeral, don’t hesitate to delegate tasks. Letting others assist with flowers, seating arrangements, or coordinating with the celebrant can relieve some of the pressure and allow others to contribute.

If you are bringing children to the service, preparing them in advance can make the experience easier for everyone. Explain what they can expect and reassure them that feeling sad or asking questions is okay. Bringing along a quiet activity, such as a colouring book, can help keep younger children occupied. Having a trusted adult ready to step outside with them if needed can also be useful.

Grief can come in waves, often unexpectedly. If you start to feel overwhelmed, take a few deep breaths or step outside for a moment of fresh air. Funerals are about being present, so keeping your phone on silent can help you stay focused on the ceremony and those around you.

The gathering after a funeral, often called a wake, is an important time for connection. Sharing stories and memories with family and friends can provide comfort and remind everyone of the joy the person brought into their lives. If you feel up to staying, it can be a valuable part of the grieving process, but if you need to leave early, that’s perfectly okay too.

Once the funeral is over, it’s important to take care of yourself. Grief doesn’t end when the service does, and everyone processes loss in their own way. Take time to rest, check in with loved ones, and allow yourself the space to grieve. There is no timeline for healing, so be patient with yourself.

Funerals are a blend of sorrow, love, and reflection. While they can be difficult, they are also an opportunity to honour a life and find comfort in the presence of those who shared in it. With a little preparation and self-care, you can navigate the day with grace and focus on what truly matters—coming together to remember and celebrate the life of someone special.

If you need guidance or support, Solace Family Funerals, a caring and affordable funeral home on the Gold Coast, is here to help.